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Becoming a widow is probably one of the most terrible things that a wife can ever face in her life. This becomes even worse when it happens to you in your late life. Currently, if you are going through this troubled time in your late life then browse over this widowhood after 50: coping with loss and loneliness. These tips will definitely going to help you overcome this huge loss.
Women deal with their loss and loneliness in a different way than men do. For instance they are able to open up about their loss far more easily than men. So, if you haven’t been in touch with your extended family then now is the time to reach out to them. It is being with family that will help you to get over the sense of loss.
Sometimes just being with support groups is not enough to get over that feeling of loss and loneliness. Maybe you need cognitive behavioral therapy to help you to overcome the sadness and negativity that you are currently surrounded with. This would be a much better option for you which will also lead to a long term improvement rather than taking anti-depressants which comes with its own adverse effects on the body.
When a wife loses a husband after the many years of togetherness, her social life goes down and for some it stops totally. This is because most women have associated their lives as being a part of their husband’s. Hence when he passes away they are left lonely. This is likely to sap all confidence and now you are in that stage of life, where you need to attend socially interactive classes that will bring all those confidence back in you. For example book reading, choir singing, dancing, yoga, meditation, talks from experts that speak of happiness etc.
As a widow you will find that many people who you even don’t know want to reach out to you with all kinds of help. But actually what they seek is gossip. They feel that they can emotionally bribe the woman in you to talk about your loss and hence ask incessant questions. Just don’t answer them. Go into a state of silence with these people. Rather, get a friend or even your child to attend to these people and to the phone calls.
Tough as it may be, you need to smile. Stand right in front of the mirror and do it. Slowly you will find that you are able to do it much better. Start going out with friends to happy places with lots of people – cafes, restaurants, holidays – as all this will help you to heal. But when the years come, don’t keep the mask on and pretend that all is fine let it all out because after that you will feel much better.
Women are very good with words when it comes to expressing an emotion. So, even if you have never written before, you must start a journal entry. Every day write your feelings. It will act as a catharsis and a few years later when you leaf back and read them you will be amazed to know about the strength that you have garnered. At your age, writing during bed time will also act as “medicine” and help you sleep better.
You will find that when men find out that you are single they think that you are vulnerable enough to take to bed. Don’t go down that path because you will feel worse after it. Rather tread down that path cautiously and move forward only when you are ready to. And if you do come across a man who gives you the love that you are craving for, don’t hold back thinking what family will say or that you are cheating on your husband. Remember that he would always want you to be happy.
When you are widowed you feel shattered and everything around you seems coming crumbling down. However, you have to be the strong person that you have always been. Slowly start to get a hold of yourself and begin living and believing in yourself.